What I learned in 2016


Instead of a ‘What I’ve Learned This Week’ post (which I normally share on a Friday),   I felt it would be appropriate to make a post about some of the things I’ve learned this last year which we’ve just said goodbye to.

Some of the things life taught me during 2016 are fabulous, and some aren’t.

I’m a believer in a particular ‘thing’, which life taught me when I was in my early teens, which I call:  If something happens,  it happens For A Reason.

It might be a truly wonderful, amazing, biggest wish and want of your heart and soul.  Or it could be something not so wanted or desired.  However, what ever this ‘thing’ is, it will have been placed on your pathway for a reason, and you are meant to learn something from it.

So let’s begin the journey of discovery about what I Learned during 2016, shall we?  Are you strapped in securely?  Do you have your crash helmet secured?  Clean underwear on?  Okey Dokey, hold on tightly to the person sat next to you, because that way it’s less likely that you’ll fly off half way round the ride!

I learned last year ….  that when I finally find some moccasin slippers which fit beautifully, with good soles, and are lined with cotton inside them (because of my stupidly sensitive feet) …  I should buy two or even three pairs, because when the pair I originally chose, and have been wearing till they fell apart, I won’t be able to find any more, anywhere near as comfortable or lovely as them, and the place I bought them from changed the design and put non-cotton linings in their new design.  I’ve been looking since February of 2016 for a new pair, and so far I’ve found nothing which comes anywhere near.  I’ve bought new slippersin fact I’ve bought four pairs of different slippers since then, but none of them are anywhere near as comfortable and, to be truthful, I hate them all.

The older I’ve got, the more I’ve grown to appreciate bits of my body, in particular my feet.  Look after your feet people, because they have to last you for the rest of your life.  Buy shoes which fit.  Don’t wear heels every day – swap things around – to give your feet chance to work properly.  And don’t wear anything which is tight around the toes. It’s not brain surgery, and it’s simple to understand.  Look after your feet.

I also learned that I need to Plan Ahead.  Not for the emergency things, like a power cut and we had no electricity – because I plan for all emergencies like that.

(In fact, I plan so ‘beautifully’ (?) for that sort of emergency that if there were an actual power cut here where we live, I could give every neighbour candles and still have enough for us).

I need to stop waiting till the last moment to do some of the regular things – like make an appointment for the doctor (I wait until I’m ready to be admitted to hospital before I’ll give in and make an appointment),  – and instead of putting things off,  I need to do things there and then(!) so that they’re already done and ready for when they need to be ready.  Case in point:  This Post!

I knew I was going to do this post and I knew when I needed it done for.  And yet, here I am, on the last day of 2016, tapping away on my keyboard knowing that this post HAS to be ready to ‘go live’ in the early hours of 2017.  Why on earth didn’t I begin building this post when I sat having a rest or a coffee, or even last week?!  The answer is:  Because I’m a dimwit!  That’s why!

PLAN AHEAD WOMAN ... and stop leaving ‘it’ till the final moment!

Next!:

I learned during 2016  that Crafting is an obsession to me.  And not only is crafting itself the obsession, but crafty shopping is also an obsession.  I will go to a store with a list of (say) three or four items that I need.  However, when I hit that shop with all those lovely crafty goodies, I go batship crazy and am like a child who’s on a sugar high and been given permission to have as many things as they can stuff into a trolley within two hours.  Yes seriously.  I will sometimes catch the bored stiff eyes of ‘Cobs The Bogeyman’ (aka Mr.Cobs) as he wanders around after me (following me like a little lost puppy) asking …  “can we go now?”. 

The man should be awarded a Knighthood in the New Year Honours List (which we have here in the UK), for Services to Retail;  Excelling in the Art of Husbandry; and generally being Mr. Wonderful.  (although that last one can sometimes come into question).

“Arise Sir Cobs.” she says. [as the Queen finishes dobbing him on each shoulder with her trusty sword].

NEXT!

I’ve learned this year that …  New Years Eve is the only acceptable time to wear glitter without being mistaken for a stripper.
As a crafter this is the saddest bit of stuff I’ve ever learned in my whole life.  I’m always twinkling with glitter, even if I haven’t used any for a week.  A spell in my craft room seems to cover me in glitter, which I leave trails of behind me, wherever I roam, or go.  (Including into the loo – which tickles Mr.C – but I won’t tell you what he says about it.  Suffice to say it has something to do with storage of the twinkly stuff and my knickers)

NEXT!:

I won’t make up stories about my parents being the most amazing parents in the world.  My parents weren’t the best parents in the world,  but they were the best ‘THEY‘ could be.  They taught me many lessons.  Life Lessons about:

  • appreciating every thing I had.  From the toys that were given to me as a child, to the teachers I had at school and the lessons I learned from them.
  • How to make friends and be a friend.  ( I still have problems making friends because I’m SO painfully shy).
  • Ensuring that I knew the importance of keeping Sunday as a family day and Christmas and Easter,  and Birthdays, as special days and honour the family by spending time with them – all of them – from my parents to my Grandma & Grandad, Uncles, Aunties, Cousins etc.
  • To look at both sides of any choices which were placed in front of me.  Good-v-Bad.  To make sure that I had looked at things from every angle in order to make sure I made the right choice for me.
  • To have an opinion.  Aw heckaroonie,  I could count on my Mom to have an opinion, and to feel free to voice it –  even if I or anyone else disagreed with her, she had her opinion and would stick to it too.
  • To be willing to help.  From the age of around 12, I used to do the family weekly shopping all by myself.  My mother would be working and my father wasn’t the shopping sort of chap, so I was left a list next the kitchen sink, every Saturday morning, along with money, and I had to go all by myself to the local shopping centre, and visit the big Supermarket;  greengrocer;  butchers;  newsagent;  and possibly the pharmacy too, in order to get all the things on the list, within the money that I’d been left to buy it with.  Then bring all those groceries home – walking all the way home carrying four bags full of groceries.  This taught me a huge lesson as a child:  How to be an important part of the family.  How to manage money;  How to Budget;  How to Shop for a whole family with all their various likes and dislikes;  and …  Spend money on the right things when that was the only option open.  As an adult, when I married, I was so grateful for those shopping and money management lessons.

I learned many more lessons from my parents and I’m grateful for them.  However, a lesson they never got the chance to teach me (and I so wish they had)  was how to deal with someone, a family member in this case, who not just wounded me but broke my heart with their words,  all within about 90 seconds,  and without me getting chance to ask why?  What?  How?  When?  Who?  Why?  WHY??

My parents aren’t around now for me to talk to and ask advice from on how to deal with what happened and to share with them how it’s affected me, and over the last year I’ve wished daily that I had someone older and wiser to advise me, and to just listen.  Before now, I’ve had my mother in law to chat with, and she’s been brilliant.  But she’s getting on in age and is showing some signs of a dementia type of illness so of course I simply won’t give her a problem like this for her to listen to.

So it’s been left to me to ‘grow up’ and get to a place where I have come to a decision about what I have to do.

This whole thing happened because I’d offered this particular family member help to clean their house.  I’d offered before and they seemed to welcome the idea of this help –  things were getting on top of them and all sorts of stuff had become very difficult for them as they were suffering with depression.

Offering to help with the cleaning was the only thing I knew how to do which I thought might help in some way.  But I’d been waiting for them to tell me when they’d like me to come over – for it’s how we’d left it.  I offered, they brightened up and said yes, and said they’d let me know when.  I’d waited weeks and weeks, and wondered if perhaps they didn’t like to ask, so I offered again, and it tipped this person over the edge of reason and they simply exploded.  They shouted an awful lot of hurtful things at me, and told me that they didn’t love me, or like me, and that they didn’t want anything more to do with me. It was such a total shock because we’d always got on really well.

So … I finally learned in the last week of 2016,  that for my own sake, I have to leave this deep wound alone and move on.  Mr.Cobs has helped me see that after 15 months, if nothing has put things right after this length of time, then I HAVE to let it go and move on from it.  For the sake of my heart, and my health, I have to leave this behind me and allow my heart time to heal.

It’s difficult because I hate to see how depression is keeping this person fixed, almost like a prisoner, in one place and no longer enjoying life.  But, as Mr.Cobs has said over and over – I have to let it go.  I cannot continue to fret over this.

I’ve learned that I’m grateful for my parents being the best parents they could be, teaching me, showing me and making me aware of the things that are important.  And … I think they would have told me I realised,  probably about eight months ago,  that I HAD to just let go of this ‘thing’,  stop turning it over and over inside my heart and mind,  and instead move on.

So that’s what I’m doing.   I’m moving on Mom. ❤

Y’know …  I felt as if I just heard her say, over my left shoulder,  ‘Good girl.’

*I tell you none of this for sympathy …  and I want none.   I’m simply sharing what I’ve learned last year, and this was a really BIG learn for me.

OK… moving on:  NEXT!

I learned, during 2016, that it takes me two months to learn to write the new year numbers down on anything that I need to write it down on.  So I’m going to try harder with 2017!

NEXT!

I learned all over again in 2016, how much I enjoy writing posts for this blog.  I’ve ‘met’ so many wonderful people via the blog and I cannot begin to tell you how enriching it is to know you all.  YOU reading this now.  YOU enrich my life by being in it.  So I take this opportunity to thank you for being who you are.  You’re truly amazing.  (And boy oh boy, you’re such a blessing!)

NEXT:

I’ve learned how much I adore the simple jokes in life.  Complicated jokes are great … but sometimes they can be a bit too clever and they make my brain hurt trying to keep up with them.  But the simple, almost childlike jokes … aw, they are the jaw achers which I adore.  I shall attempt to remember to add a small handful at the end of this ‘ream of internet paper’.

NEXT!

I’ve learned the importance of an afternoon snack. 4pm (ish) seems to be the point at which my sugar levels drop to a low and I will either fall asleep in my chair or take myself off to bed for a nap.  However … if I have something snackwise, at around 4pm, then I’m good to go for the rest of the day.  Have a snack!

And finally….

I’ve learned the importance of not hitting your knee on a substantial coffee table, made of 2″thick pine and made in such a way that a family of four could live in it in an emergency.  Actually … I learnt this lesson on the closing moments of 2016 … so only just, and the swear words are still bouncing off the walls of my brain!  Grrrrr!  Gosh, that knee hurts now, and it’s really, really hot to touch and swollen too!

OK…  I know you’ve been waiting for this part ….  here come the jokes:

On New Year’s Eve, Marilyn stood up in the local pub and said that it was time to get ready. At the stroke of midnight, she wanted every husband to be standing next to the one person who made his life worth living. Well, it was kind of embarrassing. Because,  as the clock struck, the bartender was almost crushed to death.
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What’s the difference between a ‘hippo’ and a ‘Zippo’?
 . . . . . .  One is really heavy, the other is a little lighter
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Two Clowns divorce.  A Custardy battle follows.
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Question for you …  Why is the winner of the Miss Universe contest always from earth?
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An annoying person told me “People have 2 Ears and 1 mouth, so they should listen more than they speak.”

I replied “People also have 1 mouth and 2 legs, so maybe you should shut up and go away.”

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In the beginning, God created the heaven and the earth. After that, everything else was ‘Made in China’.

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WomenA species that loathes you for asking their age,but will torture you forever if you forget their birthday.

What is red and bad for your teeth?  . . .   A brick!

Isn’t it scary that doctors call what they do “practice”?

Love means nothing to a tennis player.

Knock Knock
Who’s there?
Who.
Who who?
What are you? An owl?

Knock Knock
Who’s there?
Smell map
Smell map who?
If you’re not giggling by now,  say it out loud.  If you’re still not giggling after that then click and hold the click over this —>“Smell map who?”  sounds like  ‘Smell my poo’ when said out loud<—

Knock Knock
Who’s there?
Doris.
Doris who?
Doris locked that’s why I’m knocking.

Knock, Knock
Who’s there?
Hatch
Hatch who?
Bless you and cover your mouth next time.

Knock, Knock
Who’s there?
Spell.
Spell who?
OK, W. H. O.

Knock, Knock
Who’s there?
Mikey.
Mikey who?
Mikey doesn’t fit in the keyhole

Knock Knock
Who’s there?
I eat map.
I eat map who?
Oh yuk!   That’s disgusting!  (you might have to say it out loud if you haven’t got it yet).

And finally …..

Wife texts husband: Where are you? Why aren’t you home yet?

Husband texts back: Love, do you remember the jewellery shop on Regent Street where you saw a diamond necklace and fell in love with it and I couldn’t afford it then, but I said ‘I will get it one day for you’?

Wife replies (all excited): Yes I do, I do.

Husband texts back to her: I am in the pub just next door to that.

fnar fnar!

Well I guess that there’s only one thing left for me to do now and that’s this (It’s only 34 seconds long):-

 

Remember you can reset your resolutions on January 14th (Orthodox New Year) and February 8th (Chinese New Year). After that, even I can’t help you.
I personally have only one resolution. To rediscover the difference between wants and needs. May I have all I need and want all I have.
May love, peace and harmony be yours in 2017, and my greatest wish for you is for contentment to be yours.  For when you have contentment, you then have everything you could possibly want.  Happy New Year to you!

With love ~

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45 thoughts on “What I learned in 2016

  1. Wonderful post and wise words! Yes…I learned the hard way that if you find something that fits and is comfortable then buy at least four of said item….
    And definitely. Let go and move on. These lessons are sad and hard to learn sometimes, but as you said, they happen for a reason…ultimately you will benefit.
    So pleased we “met”, you have a lovely blog 🙂
    Happy New Year!

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    • Hello Samantha, and Happy New Year to you!
      Thank you for your wonderful, encouraging and uplifting comment. Your words mean so much to me and help me to see that I’m correct in choosing to move lanes on the motorway of life.
      I’m very much a believer that things are put on our path for us to learn something from them. I’m now on a new path which I’m hoping will help me see the lesson and understand it fully, so learning what I need to learn.

      I too am pleased we ‘met’. We seem to fit together like parts of a jigsaw. It feels … ‘comfy’. We, feel comfy. ❤
      Sending you much love and wishing you only the best of things for this New Year. ~ Cobs. x

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  2. Happy New Year darling Cobs. Wonderful post as always. Although I do think you can wear glitter when ever you want to! 🙂 Personally, I wish I had the figure to be mistaken for a stripper!!! lol!
    “Moving on” definitely struck a cord with me. Time to leave things in the past where they belong. So I am joining you on that one. Maybe we could remind each other of these things throughout the year….just in case we slip back into old way.
    Wishing you and Mr. Cobs all the very best for 2017.
    Hugs Flo xx

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    • Hello beautiful Florence, and a very warm and happy New Year to you.
      I think you’re right; maybe we should remind each other of these things throughout the year, because I know I’m definitely a ‘slip back’ kind of person.
      Whatever it is which you need to move on from, we’ll encourage each other, every now and again, to keep on this new pathway we’ve chosen. Our paths may be different, but I’m pretty sure that two friends can find a way to hold hands as we skip along.

      As for you wishing you had the figure to be mistaken for a stripper … I remember having one of those things once upon a time (a figure that is), but I think I left that behind in the maternity ward many years ago, when I swapped it for ‘Eyes in the Back of your Head’ – which is what I’d been told that I’d need now that I had a little one. But I definitely had one, ’cause I remember it. lol

      Sending love and the very best of New Year Wishes to you and Mr.Flo. May your troubles be small, your laughter be big, and your smiles be bright.
      love~ Cobs. x

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  3. God bless you Mrs Cobs, wishing you a happy 2017 moving onwards and upwards. I love reading what you’ve learned, and your jokes are blinking amazing. Still laughing about ‘shut up and go away’ 😂 Anyway, I’m glad you have found a way to make peace with yourself, I’m sure we all have a situation where we can take inspiration from you (I know I do). Much love, laughter and happiness for the coming year. X x PS maybe send some of those jokes to the Christmas cracker people, just so next year’s are a bit more fun. X

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    • Hello Mrs.Craft, and a very Happy 2017 to you.
      Yes, moving on and moving upwards, I think, is the right thing for me to be doing. It’s taken a long while to get to this place, but now I’m here, I feel lighter. Brighter. It feels better today – as if I’ve been relieved of a weight.

      Thrilled to pieces that I made you laugh with my favourite selection of jokes. That ‘shut up and go away’ joke is one of my very most favourites. It tickles the heck out of me – I think because I’m a mom and moms have that certain sense of humour which is slightly off centre. (or maybe that’s just me. lol)

      Let’s make this year one to remember, for all the very best reasons.
      I wish you much happiness, peace, love and laughter, MrsCraft.
      I’m so happy that we ‘met’. You’re one of my blessings which I give thanks for.
      Sending you much love
      ~ Cobs.x

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  4. Oh, Cobs, Happy New Year to you! I do love your “what I have learned” posts.

    I’m sorry that you have been hurt by a family member’s words. I do agree with the moving on from the hurt. Depression is so difficult (both sides of the coin – to watch someone struggle with it, to have it without really knowing the extent of it). My only suggestion is…don’t totally give up on the person below the pain that lashed out. I had lost a family member to alcohol (which is a whole different ball of wax) and depression for a lot of years, limited contact. About 3 years ago, he hit rock bottom. When his fog cleared, he could see I was still standing there. I am grateful for the relationship we have now. I haven’t totally forgotten the pain he caused over the years (I never forget things – character flaw!), but I keep it tucked away, and I think I occasionally change the label on the box it lives in – currently, it is labeled “unintentional pain”.

    I wish you the best in the New Year! And may the Slipper Fairy put the best pair in your path SOON!

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    • Hello Kathy, and a very Happy New Year to you my friend.
      Thank you so much for your lovely comment. You are very wise indeed.

      I was thankful to read how your relationship with your relative has improved, following the alcohol dependency teamed with depression, which your relative had been battling. How brilliant it must be to have him back again. I can imagine your sense of relief and how great your thanks must be for this achievement.

      Like you … I can forgive and, as I myself laughingly put it – “I bury the hatchet, but I never forget where I buried it“.
      A character flaw in me also.

      Again – thank you Kathy for your lovely comment and for sharing your own path which you’ve had to walk. Oh .. and I loved to read that you too put ‘stuff’ into boxes within your heart, mind and soul, and label them. I too do this and thought I was the only person who did it as I’d never met anyone else who had this way of mentally ‘storing’ things. I thought I must be a bit weird. So grateful to hear you do this thing too.

      I LOVE the idea of there being a Slipper Fairy!! Ohhh please let her be true, and let her bring slippers of perfection onto my pathway soon.
      Wishing you a wonderful New Year, filled with love, peace and harmony.
      May you find contentment. ~ Cobs x

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  5. Happy New Year! You learned a lot, I think!! I learned how to do a blog post, and that I still don’t like tea…or anchovies….yep, I think that’s all!! Must try harder this year….

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    • Hello PPuff, and a Happy New Year to you too.
      Yes, I did learn a lot – more than I’ve even included in the post, but I thought it best to share only those things which found their way out of my memory all by themselves – that way I wouldn’t send a reader to sleep! lol.

      Just like you, I don’t like tea or anchovies either.
      If you only found those things on your list then lets be thankful that you obviously have already learned the lessons you need to learn, and hopefully, you won’t find anything placed on your pathway for you to deal with this year.

      Wishing you the warmest of New Year Wishes, and hoping that love, joy and harmony enter your home and enjoy it so much that they stay.
      Sending love ~ Cobs. x

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  6. SO glad to hear from you. I was concerned you might be stuck in a snow drift or under a fallen Christmas tree that the cat dislodged.
    My parents aren’t perfect either but they are the only ones I have. They are the reason I am who I am . People can take that for what it is worth. Independent …would be a good word. My Dad is going to be 94 Friday and Mother will be in July. They are a challenge to say the least.You kow these last few months have been a growing time for me, but I’m a pretty good gardener and working the soil daily. You can’t even imagine how much you have helped in this garden.
    My goal for the new year is to get this blogging thing set and improving. Did I tell you my video has disappeared from my laptop. I always thought Dell was more reliable. Not so sure now. Maybe there will be an update on Moreinkplease later today. I’m up with thank you notes and already into January birthday cards. Oh goodness…my #1 son will be 50 years old on the 17th. Just not possible! Where did all of the years go?
    Happy New Year to the Cobs. Love you

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    • Hello dearest Beverly.
      I’m so sorry that you were concerned about where I was. I decided that I was going to have a couple days off blogging – like a bit of a holiday, to try and help my health to improve. However, things took a turn for the worse and I’ve been rather poorly all week, only seeing an improvement New Years eve. So I’m hoping that things keep heading in the right direction.

      Your parents sound fabulous, and how wonderful it is to still have them around.
      I know how difficult it must be to have them as (in effect) two more plates which you’re responsible for and have to keep spinning, while you’re on your climb up Kilimanjaro.
      Things will, I promise, begin to feel a little easier for you, and you will eventually find that you didn’t remind yourself to carry on breathing and simply did it without thinking.

      I’m so happy to hear that you can see you’re moving forward. If I have helped you with your garden, then it is with love alone. You are very much needed in the world Beverly, so although the work is hard and the climb so tiring, please don’t ever give up. For an awful lot of people care about you and need you in their own lives, walking with them sometimes, along their own paths.

      You’ve lost a video from your computer? How on earth did that happen I wonder?! Could it possibly be that you’ve accidentally moved it to someplace? OH… and CHECK YOUR WASTE BIN on your computer! If you right click on the waste paper basket, it might give you some options to retrieve things – you could try that, just in case it’s been moved into the waste paper basket. Have a look in there. I shall keep my fingers crossed.

      You have got so much motivation at the moment. You’re beating me with being up to date. I seem to get behind around September last year, and never quite really got in front again. But like you, I’m determined to work this out this year and get it sorted.

      As for your son being 50 years old this month … NO. ABSOLUTELY NOT. I refuse to believe that you yourself are anything more than 55 at the very most. You obviously adopted him – or he must have turned up in a box of cereal as a free gift, and you kept him. You can’t possibly have given birth to him because you’re not old enough. No. Not possible. It does not compute. (as they say in the tech world).

      Happy New Year, Beverly. May this year bring you peace.
      Love you too my friend. ❤ ~ Cobs. xxx

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  7. Happy New Year Lovely Cobs! (and to your family too!) Love this post! Ditto, when you find a great fit…buy more than one:) Ugh those hard lessons in life 😦 , we definitely learn from them and having to let go is what is the healthiest decision for you. You will definitely feel a sweet release in time 🙂 I could ramble on and on talking …but I will say I look forward to chatting with you and reading your blog! Love the ending jokes 🙂 Sending Love, Joy, and Peace! xxxxRuthie

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    • Hello beautiful Ruthie.
      Yes, your right, those hard lessons in life are definitely things we are given in order to learn from. I already feel more ‘up’ and somehow lighter, now that I’ve realised that I have to let it go and keep walking forward. Pestering and worrying over it was keeping me in the past and not allowing me to grow in any way, so you’re right on the money when you say it’s the healthiest decision.

      You’re also right when you say right fit, buy more than one! Again, another lesson learned the hard way. tsk tsk.

      Love chatting with you too, Ruthie. You’re this breath of spring fresh air which gently flows through this cottage, here where I live. I love it when you come to call for a coffee and a few giggles over some jokes.
      Sending you the warmest of good wishes for this New Year. May love, peace, joy and contentment be yours this year.
      Sending you lots of love~ Cobs. x

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  8. Happy New Year to you and the Mr. 2016 was a year of trials and amazement. Dealing with diseases is not fun and depression is a nasty bit. When words are spoken, you can’t take them back no matter how hard you try and yes, lots of times they sting. People that are ill, at times, really have no idea what they have done or just how badly they have hurt someone.
    Must leave the past behind, there is nothing we can do about it now anyway, live for today, and hope tomorrow brings joy instead of sorrow. No point in worrying about something that isn’t even here yet right? Right. I try and say “I am thinking about it, not worrying about it” and it works for me.
    I have learned that you can only do so much for people and the rest is definitely up to them. Even the ill can make choices albeit maybe not the right ones. You are no good to anyone especially yourself if you are consumed with other peoples “stuff”.
    Aww coffee table corners, ouch, yup my knees, I can relate. Also sewing machine tables! Gets me right in the hip if I’m not careful.
    The sun is shining on this first day of 2017, but it’s bitter cold. We had a bit of snow overnight, not much but it made it a white New Years Day. The wind is blowing and I’m glad to still be in my jammies inside with my fur babies and my yarn projects. Now to have a lovely breakfast with all the trimmings, or maybe now it’s brunch.
    Happy New Year and look forward to your many more posts that make us smile, tear up, think and create. Big hugs from Victoria, BC.

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    • Hello Soozyb, and a very Happy New Year to you.
      Depression is such a cruel disease and it can alter the behaviour of those suffering with it, really quite badly. Where their behaviour or, as in my case, their words are purposefully chosen to hurt another, it can have highly destructive, damaging consequences, as I know to my own cost.
      Like you say, once words are spoken they cannot be taken back. And likewise – once the words are heard, they cannot be unheard. How I wish they could.

      It sounds like you had a crisp, fresh start to your New Year, and spending the day in your jammies sounds like the perfect start to your year. Begin as you mean to continue I say!

      Wishing you a very happy New Year, filled with joy, smiles and love.
      ~ Cobs. x

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  9. Here’s wishing you a wonderful 2017! I too am a firm believer that ‘everything happens for a reason’ of which we may not understand now, but all becomes clear at some point, which leads to somehow a new beginning or a fresh start. We all need those! So here’s to all those wonderful things we have yet to experience and the many wonderful memories already made:) x

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  10. Happy New Year to my friend, Mrs. Cobs. You have indeed learned a lot this past year.
    I laughed at the glitter. I have another friend who is also a “glitter queen”. Her husband even ends up sparkling upon occasion. (Loved the stripper comparison LOL).
    Some lesson (like letting go) are the hardest to learn. I think as women we are just born “fixers” We think if we just try harder and do more it will work…..nope. Seems I need to learn and relearn that one often. With you in the struggle.
    Hippo and Zippo….loved it. Also the Question on Miss Universe :). Actually loved them all!
    Prayers your way, Cobs, for the coming year…..health, hope, joy, and crafting (of course).
    So glad I met you this past year. You are a blessing to so many of us. Keep it up!

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    • Hello Chicken!
      Happy New Year wishes to you, my fabulous friend.

      Aw glitter. You have to see our decking, out the back of our cottage, at night time, when the moon shines. Oh. My. Goodness!! I’m unsure which twinkles the most. The sky, or the decking. LOL. I was outside about three weeks ago, spritzing gold spritzer over some cardstock. When night time arrived, the dog became completely freaked out by the eerie ‘glowing pathway’ and ran back into the house with her tail tucked as far under her bottom as she could get it. She wouldn’t go out for her last visit that night. :/ poor lamb. lol

      The big lessons learned … yes, letting go has been so, so difficult. The pain went so deep and the hurt never seemed to get any less, so it was constantly raw and painful. I think you’ve hit the nail on the head – you’re right, some of us women are born ‘fixers’. We really do think that if we tried just a bit harder or do a little more, it will fix whatever is wrong. Learning to let go of it all has taken me a long, long time, but now I’m here, I can feel myself coming back from where this ‘thing’ kept me, in the past. I’m moving forward now, and the future seems so much better to me.

      You and I will struggle together. We’ll skip along – you, me and my great friend Flo (see another comment by Florence on this post) will all link arms and skip like the children we really are. Only good things can happen when friends link arms like this and skip to the same beat.

      Thrilled you liked the joke selection. Some of those are my best ones. lol.
      I too love the Miss Universe one. It makes sense! (or is that only me?) lol.

      Thank you for your prayers Chicken, they are very much welcomed and appreciated. I so want my health to improve.
      Like you, I too give thanks for our paths crossing and that we ‘met’ and actually clicked. It’s such a joy sharing time with you.
      As for me being a blessing … I can hear my mums hysterical laughter all the way from Heaven. God Bless her.
      Sending you my love and asking Gods Blessing for you.
      May 2017 bring love, warmth, happiness and joy to your home. And I truly hope that contentment is yours this year.
      God Bless ~ Cobs. x

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      • The mental image of your dog, tail between it’s legs made me laugh. I kind of like the idea of a sparkly, glowing path…..magical.
        Yes and yes to linking arms and skipping with you and Flo. What a great way to do life together and with joy.
        As for your mum laughing hysterically from Heaven…..she is probably laughing and saying, “Look at that God…look how good my Cobs turned out! She blesses people.” And God would just smile and say “Yup she does. I made her that way.” I can just picture it now :).
        God bless you too!

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        • LOLOLOLOL…. actually … I love the look of the sparkly path. During the daytime it’s a sort of posh golden colour with speckles all around, so it looks like a yet undiscovered gem stone. Of a night time it glows, twinkles and sparkles. If it were up to me, I’d spray the whole pathway! Mr.Cobs, however, doesn’t have that magical sense of appreciation that I do. He’s more ‘sensible’ and non-girly. lol.

          Aw heck … I’d like to think that my mum was proud of me and that she thinks I’m doing ‘ok’.
          And yes, God really did make me this way.
          Personally … I’d have liked a figure which didn’t get fatter if I even so much as thought about a bowl of ice cream,
          and some lovely, lush, long eye lashes.
          Oh .. and smaller ‘ahems’ would be very welcomed, because those ‘containers’ cost a pretty penny for the decent ones. [coughs]
          Oh oh … and blue eyes – because blue eyes look so fetching with dark hair. Although mind, my hair is more grey now than it is dark so maybe the eyes I’ve got are fine.

          Thank you for the blessing, MrsChicken.
          Sending you oodles of love.
          Shall we skip now? 🙂 ~ Cobs. x

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  11. I’m a new follower, but I always look forward to your posts. You have the gift of keeping people glued to their screens, no matter how long the post. You are one of the many reasons I am looking forward to the rest of 2017.

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    • Hello Anne.
      It’s so lovely to see your name here, and I’m so happy that you find something worthy of your time.
      I love to have a coffee time with everyone (or tea for those who prefer tea), as it’s such a fabulous way to make Blog Land a nicer, happier place to be. It gets us all chatting with each other, and that means more new friends!
      I wish you a bright, happy 2017, and hope that love, joy, and happiness is yours this year. May you find that contentment fills your heart and home.
      God Bless Anne.~ Cobs. x

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  12. What a wise & wonderful Cobs you are, not only have you taken on board just what the universe has been teaching you during 2016 but you have passed your lessons on, love you & your blog to bits xx

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    • Hello Mrs.P and thank you for your lovely comment.
      I love you too, and,for those reading… I love your blog too and would encourage people to come and visit you because if they haven’t already been and shared a coffee with you, then they don’t know what they’re missing! You’re LOTS of fun.
      Sending love ~ Cobs. x ❤

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      • Aww shucks lets hope the lessons 2017 bring forth serve to enrich our lives for the better, Have to dash off to ‘The Workplace’ I’ll catch up with your blog latter to make sure I haven’t missed any nuggets of inspirational gossip

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  13. Happy new year Cobs. A lovely post and you have learned a lot but I can hear your hurt over the upset with your family member. I have several family members who suffer with depression and it can be so cruel but what is even worse is the way they can turn and be so hurtful to the people around them, intentionally or not. I have learned this the hard way this Christmas so I’m with you on the moving forward front. We will have to do it together.

    As for wearing glitter and being obsessed with buying craft supplies – there are far worse things in life. I would go as far to say that you should wear glitter to the craft shop and make it a true occasion!

    I’ve noticed you haven’t blogged for a few days and hope all is well with you. Hannah xx

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    • Hello Hannah, great to see you.
      Aw my health at the moment is rubbish. If I exert myself at all, for the simplest of things, I suffer for it afterwards. Such a pain in the you know where.

      I do need to get into my craft room to make a card for a family birthday boy in a few days time, so I’m hoping that I’ve got something in there which will be a tiny bit on the ‘impressive scale’ but an ‘easy to put together’ at the same time. Fingers crossed.

      I totally agree with you in what you say about folks suffering with depression. Sometimes it can feel like the person isn’t suffering with it any more, but instead rather enjoying it. But … I’m moving forward and moving on and trying to leave it all behind me, as it was making me more ill trying to deal with being on the end of someones mean and spitful outbursts within their depression. I tried and tried and tried. I did as much as I possibly could do in the situation, and it seemed that nothing I could do was right or good enough. With the last outburst being so painful and hurtful, I came to realise that walking away seemed the healthiest (and only) option left for me.

      I’m sorry to hear that you too have experienced something of this sort at Christmas. So yes, we’ll walk forward and keep our chins up.

      Sending you my good wishes for a happy New Year, and wishing you joy, love, bright days, thrilling moments and … contentment. Oh … and perhaps a lottery win – just to make you smile.
      All my love ~ Cobs. x ❤

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  14. Hi, I just came by to see if you were ok as I had not seen any posts from you in too long a while. I see from the comments that I am not alone. Hope you feel better soon. You are missed! Xx

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    • Hello dearest Puff, and thank you so much for your lovely message.
      Everything is kind of OK. It’s just my rubbish health which is keeping me away. On top of what was already going wrong I caught that bad cough/chest thing which seems to be spreading around the country at the moment (and I can testify to it being a thoroughly nasty little bug which doesn’t hurry in leaving. It’s stayed like the most unwelcome guest ever)!

      I have an appointment with the GP early next week, and I’m hoping that he has a magic wand to put all these things right.
      Thank you so much for your lovely message and for caring, Puff. Bless your beautiful heart.
      Sending oodles of love your way ~ Cobs. x

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