In my last post I said how difficult I found making ‘Sympathy’ cards, I think because it’s so difficult to accurately gauge the deep, all-encompassing pain which descends upon someone when they suffer the loss of a loved one. So it came as quite a surprise to find myself making yet another ‘sympathy’ card, – this one very much different from the last one.
I had my Ranger Melting Pot (aka The Cauldron) out the other day and made a few things, putting most of them on one side for projects at some other point. One of the things I made was the Angel Wings you see on the card above. I got the little box out where I’d stored them along with the other items I’d made and the moment I picked up the Angel Wings and held them in my hand … I knew I should make another sympathy card, this time using them as the feature embellishment on the front.
I laid the wings onto my desk and looked at them for a minute or so. They were lovely – but there was something missing. Took me a moment to figure it out. Wax. They needed high-lighting in pearl wax so that the individual feathers came to life and caught the light. It took just a minute to do – but they looked so lovely once I’d polished them to a shine. (Nicer than in the photographs – but sadly I’m not a great photographer so please make allowances for me being rubbish with a camera!)
I went through my stamps to find the right one which would be suitable to use – and although I stamped out several of them (wasting card like it was going out of fashion) – none of them were right. They were either the wrong sentiment, or they were the wrong type face for the words. In the end I decided that I’d print my own words, using my computer and my printer. That’s when the ‘fun’ began.
It took me a very hot one and a half frustrating [insert appropriate swear word] hours just to get that sentiment from the computer to my card! I had to work out where I needed to place the typed words on a word type document that I was looking at on the ‘puter screen – which would mean it would be in the right place when I put my card through the printer.
(Again – this resulted in more card being put into the ‘trim off the rubbish bits and put the rest into the ‘scraps’ draw’ pile. Grrrr!)
Seriously – it was frustrating to the point that my sensible mind telling me to: “just give up woman, you’re not going to get this right!” – the problem was → – I was determined that it wasn’t going to beat me.
Then suddenly all the planets aligned. There was a Star to the East. My Lottery Numbers came up and …. well no, actually that didn’t happen . . . but it certainly felt like it did when the printer delivered the perfectly placed sentiment, with the right font, right place and right colour. Ta DAHHHH! (Was that a choir of Angels I heard singing? At this point I really wouldn’t have been surprised.)
I attached the wings to the card using a mix of two glues – one an ‘instant’ fix – which was the hot glue gun. The other one a glue which needs time to dry, but dries clear and holds well. Then it was time to deal with the inside.
I didn’t feel it needed me to add words to the inside of the card, but instead leave it blank inside so that the sender could write a short, or long note of condolence depending upon how they themselves felt.
Instead I decided upon a single creamy white Angels feather, tied with a bow of satin ribbon, attached to the inside of the card.
And that was it.
It’s quite a simple card (or would have been, was I not so technically challenged!) and once I’d got the positioning right of the sentiment, it was easy to pull it all together. However – I think it’s perfect in its unfussy, simplicity. It conveys the right feeling, in the right way, but it doesn’t go over-board. I think I got the balance just right on this one and I love the finished card.
I think I got the balance just right on this one. I really love the finished card and hope you like it too.
Have a happy Sunday. I hope the weather is kind to you and that peace rests in your heart and soul today, where ever you are.
Have a truly blessed day, all.
I like your card. Having been the recipient of sympathy cards I can tell you there is NOTHING good you can put on it. But this little phrase would keep me from yelling at it. And I love the wings.
I really hate the cards that are (how to describe it?) insipid. Bland and uncaring but pretending to care. I growl at the hallmark cards, although I understand the sender meant the best, so I don’t growl at the person.
Leaving it blank on the inside is good for when there is a group of people giving the card. Everyone has their own remark, and the hallmark card words just get in the way.
Ya’ gotta love it when a card comes together. Good job!
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(((LemonD))) – I too have been on the receiving end of sympathy cards and although I can agree with you that there are a lot of cards which say nothing in particular so have no ‘feeling’ in them, I was in receipt of two cards from completely different people, which meant and world to me simply because the senders had taken the time to write a personal note and included a snippet of their personal memories of the person I’d lost. They both spoke of things which I knew nothing about but this new found knowledge filled me with such love and gratitude to them. Made me cry, I’ll freely admit, but those two cards I kept safe and still have them.
Years later – I think I now understand that people just simply don’t know what to say in this ‘situation’, so they rely on a card to ‘speak’ for them. I think perhaps folks need to realise that although it’s really kind of them to send a card, the card needs more than their signature. It needs some sort of remembrance. A memory. Something which speaks of the person who’s passed over.
It was with this in mind that I left the inside of the card empty and without any inner sentiment. I kind of wanted to encourage something more than ‘with all our love, from Doris and George.’
The card is smaller than it looks in the photographs at approximately five and a half inches square – so big enough to hold a handwritten note, but not so big as to daunt the sender.
Thank you SO much for taking the time to comment LemonDaisy, I love comments. It gets us all talking to each other, and makes this huge place so much more friendly.
I’m so saddened to hear of your loss. Losing someone you love isn’t something you ever ‘get over’. It’s only something that you learn how to deal with, little by little, a little more each and every day, until eventually the pain doesn’t show on your face in public anymore. We learn to how to play a grown up version of ‘pretend’, and smile as if we’ve put that huge part of our life to bed and forgot about it. Where-as, you and I both know that one never ‘gets over’ it.
Oh that it were that simple.
Sending love, and a prayer ~ Cobs. x
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I do love the card and feel your pain. I am making a sympathy card for a couple who just “lost ” a baby not due until december. I will struggle with the word program to get it just right ( I hope). Maybe I will get it posted. Ther has been awefull lot of sadness lately. God’s peace for all I pray/
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Hello Beverley, thanks for the comment.
Making a sympathy card when it’s the loss of a child isn’t something I’ve had to make, and hope I never have to. So I can appreciate the anguish this must be causing you.
Thanks again for the comment Beverly. It means the world to me and I love seeing your name here. ~ Sending love ~ Cobs. x
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This is beautiful cobs – i think you have captured the perfect sympathy card here. It is so hard to make a card for someone whose loved one has died, yet you have managed to convey the exact sentiment someone would want, and the card is so elegant in it’s simplicity.
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Ohhh, Hello Ems!! It’s SO great to see your name pop up on the comments here!
Thank you so much for taking the time to comment, and I’m so glad that you like the card. You’re right – sympathy cards are the ones I pester and worry about more than any other hand made card, and so can appreciate all handmade ‘sympathy’ cards, because I can tell just by looking at them, how much someone has fretted over getting a card ‘just right’.
GREAT to see you here Ems! It gave me a huge smile when I realised that there was a comment from you.
(Readers: Ems is the crafter I interviewed a few weeks ago. Find the post here: https://thecobweboriumemporium.wordpress.com/2014/06/22/interview-with-an-introverted-crafter/
Have a read, and perhaps visit Ems blog and see what she’s up to!)
Sending love and hugs to you, Ems. ~ Cobs. x
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I do love it. So simple and direct (not slushy), but striking just the right balance.
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Hello E1aine. Thank you so much for taking the time to comment. I’m so glad you like the card.
How odd that you should comment today; – I was only thinking of you a few hours ago and wondered if you were OK as I hadn’t seen a post on your blog recently. I’d made my mind up to come and take a peep at you blog in case you’d posted something and the email had gone astray.
We obviously had a close and psychic bond moment going on!
Thanks for the comment and love that you like the card. It’s great to see you here. Sending love, as always ~ Cobs. x
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Wandering through your crafting projects. This is so lovely and the sentiment is perfect. Congratulations on using your computer to put the sentiment in place (it does my head in trying to figure such things out).
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Oh, mine too Barbara. It took me aaaages to get it right for this card. BUT .. I’m not daft. I made a note of how – where – when – etc etc so that if I wanted to do it again then there would be ready made instructions on how I did it the first time. 😀
Thrilled you like it Barbara.
Thank you so much for your lovely comment. ~ ❤ Cobs. x
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